Momof3Kings

Hello lovelies and gents!!

You are so amazing and awesomely wonderful, and our Father in Heaven loves you so much!

Did you know God loves you so much that he will give you ideas?! He’ll allow things to be imparted, downloaded, and placed in your spirit. He’s so wonderful, and we don’t have to try to do anything on our own because he has an appointed timing for everything. Yes!!, there are times you will have to sacrifice your time. You want always know the timing that it will take place and it can be when you least expect it like the middle of the night lol but when he does it he gives you opportunity to listen to what he’s saying, and with that opportunity he gives you time to write it down. Sometimes it happens when it’s still and quite!

Writing it down means that it’s for a purpose and an appointed time. Whenever God gives me Vision to do something, I don’t always get started right away, but I do always water it in prayer. I water it in prayer because I know it’s for a reason, and it’s God who will give me grace to get each thing done as he desires.

For our families, God will give us vision if we desire. He’ll give us creative ideas to teach our children. He’ll give us opportunity to make things fun, and teachable. When you have true relationship with God, you want always understand everything or every way that things happen but God has away for everything to take place as he purposed and desired.

You are wonderful, and you have purpose, God imparts and he gives ideas. There is an appointed time for every desire, there is a need for everything God visions you to do. Our father in Heaven has the best in mind for us, when we are given the idea he has the appointed time. When he gives it to you dont worry, but pray until it takes place, your waiting want he in vain.

Dear Havenly father,

We come to you right now just to say thank you, to tell you that you are wonderful and amazing. We come to give you Glory as the highest King in our lives. We say thank you now for who you are and for the many opportunities that you gives us. Father God we thank you for your appointed timing. We thank you for affirming, for making, and for taking your time just to make us proposed. Father God as you impart and give us vision I pray that we will be willing to hear what you have to say, and I pray that we will take out time to write it down. I pray that we will make it plan by writing it in our hearts, plainly on paper, and stamping it in our mind and watering it in prayer. God your love is so great. I pray for everyone being used by you. I pray that it takes place in it’s appointed timing and that it will be done as you see fit, Father we give you glory right now In Jesus Name Thank you Amen.

It seems that way right…..”I know for me sometimes my thoughts go a little something like this “l have to do this, I have to do that, “oh” my I forgot this!” Being one person with many thoughts and feeling while having to divide them all is challenging and overwhelming.

When I experience those moments I like to try to find a moment to reflect on what the word says. One scripture that I love is about Martha and Mary.

Mary sat Jesus feet.. (a place that’s so sweet) while yet Martha who opened her home was tending to all the things that had to be done. (Luke 10:38-42). I love this story!. I often times think about this story when I’m dividing my time making sure everything is done.When I think about how my time in God’s presence, and my time with reading my word or just doing anything for God isn’t always where I want it to be I think about this story. I even think about how so much has been put on women, and how they have to divide their time and self, and the most important thing that gives them strength day to day goes lacking….and then I think about this story.

I think about how important Gods presence is, and how it makes such an impact and difference with the way we operate and think on a day to day basis, and I think about if those other things should really matter while we have a God who wants to talk to us. We have a God would abides in us as we abide in him, and he wants us laying everything at his feet. I think about how everything we will ever need is right there where he is. But yet, we divide our time and the things of God go lacking. I think about how most women have to divide themselves and handle many things, and most of it comes from demands that have been placed on them. I think about how those demand classifies them as a good women or bad. While all of these factors are so we have a God who cares about our relationship more then all those other things but we divide our time and attention to those demands and deadlines.

When it’s all said and done we do have to be aware, and we do have to take care of things but we also have to take care of what’s important and what will help keep us sane. Mary was at the good place, Martha was working and needed help with the work load, and that’s how it is as women we have loads , we have things that we have to take care of, and if we aren’t aware we will miss out on the good place because we are more concern about finishing while all along God wants us at his feet.

God loves us so much that he gives us chances, chances to choice what’s important in the moment whether it be in that good place at his feet or tending to the other things. When dividing our time we have to balance it all out, we also have to learn to say it’s ok, and no when necessary. There could be something waiting for us, it could be what we really need, our help, and our strength right at God’s feet. We have to make those times of dividing count by making the most important priorities!

Dear Father,

I pray for my brother and or sister reading this right now. I pray right now for them as they are winding down for the day completing those last minute task for the day. Father, I pray that you would touch them and cause them to take a moment to breath, cause them to take a moment and get in your presence. Father in you we have strength, in you we can make it, and in you there is direction for what’s most important and what’s not. Father I pray for moms, I pray for women those that carry loads, those who are on a road to succeed, and those who have to divide themselves. Father, I ask that you will give them direction, orchestrate their walk, and father cause all of this to be done with you as the head , with you being the one that they go to, with them being able to be in your presence. Dividing self is hard, it’s tough but Father in you all things are possible. Give direction where it is needed, and cause every women young and old to succeed through your grace I say thank you now In Jesus Name Amen.

“Happy New Year lovelies and gents”

I hope you all had an amazing holiday season, and an amazing new year, we are in year 2020!!

Well, it’s been a little while since I’ve written a blog post but I’m back at it, it’s so amazing when I look at my children, and I am able to see smiles on their faces, and even able to put a smile on their face. One night right after Christmas I was getting my boys dressed after baths, and I begin to just lightly poke my four year olds belly , he laughed and laughed and I could imagine that it was one of the most joyous moments to him based on how he laughed, I then begin to ask bigger brother did he want me to poke his belly and he joined in along with us.

Laughter of children is so amazing. Last night I was able to watch and witness another moment as we prepared for baths. To me it was one of the most cutest moments with all of my boys. My oldest was using his arms shaking them up and down, and just being silly. His purpose was to get baby to smile. While he was doing that Elijah was trying to grab babies attention also. Emmanuel was entertained by how Donnelle was shaking his arms, and he laughed as hard as he could. After awhile I noticed as he watched his brother flap his arms he begin to try to move his arms just as he saw. The laughter of my children bright me so much joy, and it gave me a chance to take a moment step back and just watch them laugh and interact with one another. I was also able to witness my four month old try to do what he saw his older brother do. It amazed me, and I was able to see that he learns very quickly.

The laughter of our children is so beautiful, it’s a chance for them to learn to enjoy each other, and enjoy life with one another. It’s beautiful. What I’ve learned is that it’s ok to allow children to play, it’s ok to allow them to laugh, and it’s even better when they get the chance to laugh because mommy or daddy took the time to play with them. I love it, I love to see them play, laugh, and grow together. Children are phenomenal and the moments of laughter with them is so great!

“Wow” Happy Thursday everyone … it’s almost Christmas!!! Are you excited?!

When I saw this picture guys I immediately came up with a topic to write about this week. This area of topic is a slightly sensitive one in my life because goosh.. I don’t have a really big support system .. isn’t that something.

Well, it is to me and, I have mixed emotions about it. I have heard this statement many times before, “it takes a village to raise a child” I can truthfully say I totally agree now. When I first heard the statement I didn’t quit believe it as much because “I was like nope not mine, I’m going to do it”, and boy do I see a difference now.. I was that way, I didn’t feel that it should take a whole lot of people to raise children. I was also used to independence. My mom raised my brother and I by herself and she did it.

What I know, see, and understand now is that support is needed. Do I feel grandma, grandpa, aunty, and or uncle should have the children all of the time nope, because I do believe that our children as moms and dads are our primary responsibilities. What I do believe is that support is needed in important times. Important times can include special programs at school, or an available uncle or cousin being able to help teach basketball, or how to cut grass.

There are pros and cons to children going to different family members houses because all households are different and when children are taught one way at home and then they go to someone else’s home things can begin to become conflicting. It’s important for us to be careful with who we allow in our children’s lives.

Support systems are needed for different areas. It’s needed as a mom. It’s needed because we as moms can’t do everything by ourselves. We shouldn’t need to and we should want or have to. It’s so encouraging to me when I see other moms express their parenthood, where they stand, and what they are learning. Support systems can be family members, and or through community connections and networking.

Being able to read or hear about another mom and the things she experience is so helpful to me. It lets me know I’m not the only one who has children that maybe doing things that I teach them not to do, for example with boys … I here a lot of stories that boys don’t listen as much as girls or that boys move a bit slower when it’s time to get ready in the morning times, and when I hear these stories they make me laugh because I myself experience similar cases.

My husband and I have one really great supporter who is always willing to help us with our children, and my children love it. Support systems also great when helping to build our children, children become familiar with who’s there, and they know when there is someone who isn’t. Children love time and attention, and they love those that give them the time and attention that they deserve. Those who hear them and see them, those who time take to speak and teach them things, and those who take the time to explain things(the why’s and why nots).

I heard this sermon this year (2019) on Father’s Day. It explained how important it is for parents to pay attention to their children when they invite us into their worlds, for example when they have those moments when they want to show us something they think is just so flat out cool .. yeah those moments .. my oldest he’s often times like mom look, or he’ll just start to talk about something he’s seen on power rangers. Those are the times that we are helping them build communication and relationship skills that they will need as they grow older it’s what will help shape them and mold them. It’s also a form of support to them.

Support systems are needed for both children and parents, and with young adult parents learning and growing we still have questions as times .. I know I sure do. Well feel free to add, comment, or even suggest other ways that your have support and who are your most supportive support systems. I look forward to hearing from you!!

I recently wrote about how we are all different (don’t forget to catch it if you haven’t), and in that blog I briefly explained how we can be a benefit to one another with those particular differences. It is true! What we have in common is womanhood, we have our identities, out like minds, and even the fact that we are moms. With that alone we help shape and make the world go around.

There are both similarities and differences in motherhood. We have our feelings when wanting children. We as women think about our children in ways that no one would think of them. We think about best interest, we think about long term goals for them. When we are away from them we think about rushing to get back to them because we just feel that they are safest with us. We go through having hard times departing even when we really need a moment. We all have our own stories.

Your story starts with you. It starts with your mindset, and your heart. We’ve all been raised differently. We all raise our children differently and, we all have feelings that are different and some that are the same. Our story includes what we experience through pregnancy and through labor. When we deliver our children, and the amount of tome after six to eight weeks that we are feeling our best selfs again. Our stories include us being strong mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Our story also includes how we process motherhood. The moments when we are overwhelmed, the moments our children want our attention, the way we process life, and what we feel about motherhood. Our day to day actions, how we treat our children, and even how we make them feel. Our stories include ourselves and others.

Our stories are comical, humorous, they involve tears of happiness and tears of joy, tears of sadness and tears of disappointments, they involve us carrying our children within for a certain amount of time, our stories include some pain, disappointments, frustrations, laughs, a lot of learning, and a lot of digesting. Our stories help tell time, the good times and bad, they build memories that will last generation to generation. We each have our own stories. Our stories include shaping the mind, and shaping the heart. Each of our stories are powerful.

When I began to write this blog I thought about the title because I was processing the way that I love my children, and the ways in which I take care of them. My children have helped shaped me and mold my behaviors. They have taught , me more about my limitations and boundaries they have taught me how and when to say “NO”, they have taught me what’s necessary and what’s not. They’ve taught me to be ok with laughing and take time to enjoy the moment. My children help shape and direct my story. They are awesome and they are mine. They are my reasons for wanting better, they taught me selfless acts of love, they are examples of unconditional love, and I am so grateful for them being included in my story of motherhood. It’s honorable and it takes the strength of god alone but it’s so worth it.

Every women has her story, and just like her story she has her dreams. We are allowed such great task for reasons we can’t imagine. With every story there is the author, the narrator, the visionary, and you are in the process of making your personal own story come true. YOU WIN!

Dear God,

We come to you humbly as we know how, heart, mind, body, and soul to your throne of grace. Father I ask that you protect those reading this, and I want to thank you for being such a great father and gift. without you we are nothing. In you we are everything and we have access to all that we need. Father cover moms all over and as she is shaping her own individual story of motherhood you be with her l. I ask that you be here. Guider and director: I ask that you cause her to see herself on a different light while being a mother let her become strong whenever she is feeling weak. I say thank you now In Jesus Name Amen!

“Cheers to ONE Month” (This post was started and finished three months later, laugh with me)

From the time we came home up until this day, it’s been delightful! Lots of kisses, hugs, late night wake up moments, lots of feeds, running errands to doctors appointments, drop offs to school, store runs and many more !! Not much rest for me…!

It’s been quite a journey, I’ve been given many side way looks when asked how old, I’ve rested a few days and been up many more days, in and through it all I’ve been mothering and making it all by God’s Grace ! Through prayer and supplication my strength has been made whole!

My baby boy is doing great, he loves my hugs and kisses, and he listens when I’m pouring out all my lungs to his brothers about their behaviors…. lol this was at one month!

He’s now three months and he’s so advance, he’s been holding his head up, and now he uses his core muscles to sit up when he is ready. He has started smiling and laughing, and he loves to look and see things. This little guy is so great and everyday that I drop him off to daycare I give him multiple kisses.

It’s so amazing to me how God has given me such a great responsibility, he entrusted me to care, respond, nurture, instill, guide, teach, and love such great and wonderful little beings. When I feel I am not my best towards them they still love me, when I feel they aren’t complying they still love me they are so filled with love and that starts when they are birth from the womb.

Our children are one of our most prized possessions and it’s so wonderful and amazing. We have a reason to be our best selves when we look at them, they follow us, learn from us, and take what we give them and live by it. There are many days that we sometimes have to do self-evaluations, we have to reflect back, and I have had a few times where I’ve had to apologize because I said something that wasn’t right even when they had explained what was right.

The reality of having these beautiful and wonderful little beings is that we have a chance to help make them great, we have a chance to train and teach them, and we have a chance to love them unconditionally. The other reality is that we are not perfect, we will sometimes use tones that are great, we will sometimes be focused on something else going on when they insist on explaining something very important, we will run into road bumps with them with disagreements but what must remain is our love towards them. Our children are one of our greatest blessings, and those blessings are sent from above. God gives us good things.

Happy Friday! It’s the weekend.

Who knew weekday winding down could be so chaotic at times?! How is it for you?! We typically get our evening rolling starting after 5:30, we start with a snack depending on the timing we get to our home, then we go into homework, dinner, baths, stories, prayer and bed. But who knew all of this could be so chaotic with two children who have homework?

I have to honestly say, I’m still learning the tricks and ropes of what works for us but what I’ve realized is that I find myself constantly repeating things, and that in itself is chaotic. What I would like to know would be more strategies of tackling homework with two when both children need help and assistants. We do get through it and I truthfully THANK GOD. It is still often at times chaotic. When I speak about chaos I am referring the feeling of being overwhelm and being able to help two at one time. My six year old normally has words on Mondays, Tuesdays he has do a techinique called LOOK-SAY-COVER-WRITE, Wednesdays he chooses five words from the word bank to write sentences, Thursdays a written practice test. My middle son has started receiving homework where he does a letter , and some numbers. He hasn’t quite grasped all of his numbers and letters neither writing so I have to work hands on with him and monitor my oldest with his writing and words, and they call us “SUPER WOMEN” mentally is one of the most overwhelming and challenging things I’ve ever had to tackle, it is also a task that I am still trying to figure out ways that would be effective when tackling and helping both of them while of course holding and maintaining baby.

That’s not even it those moments when I am giving baths and getting ever one settled for bed that goes a little something like this “Go take your clothes and put the in the dirty clothes”, “Go sit down and wait until I call you”, “Pick your coat up and put it away”, (baby crying), “Go get a rag out of the dryer”, Hurry up and get your bath you have five more minutes” …… How does that make you feel with just those few moments of reading that? Well, just imagine speaking it two or more times. Who knew winding down could be so chaotic?.

Being a mom means so many things, we have many task, and we have to find out what works and what doesn’t quit work. My question is does it every get easy? I honestly don’t think so, with each age and each stage I believe it comes with new adventures, and new unexpectancies. I believe what was once a challenge or difficulty has the possibility of fading away with age but with every age comes a little sugar and vinegar.

Moms you are so great, and you are strong, I would love for you to comment and share some of your strategies and techniques when winding down at night, or even just the times you feel are comfortable for bedtime! Lets Talk!

Enjoy your friends, love ones, and family today , you are BLESSED!

Happy thanksgiving Eve Everyone!!

How’s it going for you on this thanksgiving eve?! Well for me it’s great just had a few dreadful moments today “uggh” how about those. What about all of the running around, and shopping that’s getting ready to take place between shopping for thanksgiving, and shopping for all the Black Friday and Cyber Monday deals.

Well I have some confessions, I’m dreading all of those with the thoughts of traffic, taking the children in the crowd, and just the tiredness. On the other hand I’m excited because I’ll be cooking a few things this year , and my husband and I have decided to make it fun and do a cook off of who has the best ham and baked Mac and cheese (giggles here). Outside of all of those exciting things when it rains all I want to do is be at home in my blankets and pajamas any of you feel that way?! Im also not pressed to do any Black Friday shopping with the children because my husband will be working, and it will just be me, how about that… I’m dreading it all! Since I’ve started back working every time it rains that’s how I feel, I guess it’s because I have had the little one, and so don’t want to take him out much in this weather … a lot of days I experience body acts, and so many other thoughts and feelings that run through my mind.

It would be nice to know how you overcome of the dreadful moments that you experience as a parent?

How do you manage to handle the hassles of going out?

When it’s time to do shopping this time of year do you do strictly do online shopping or prefer to be in the crowd with your little ones?

Mommas do you do shopping with your significant other or by yourself?

It could be all preference. I am so grateful for another year being able to spend thanksgiving feasting with my family, I’m also grateful for being able to take on the tradition of cooking a few things. To be honest cooking is a fear in away I’ve never cooked major meals like these, but the joy is in knowing IM actually doing it, I’ll be up late, and probably extremely tired tomorrow but the joy will come from being able to be with my family once again and knowing I have another son who is now apart of it all!

I look forward to hearing about your preferences, and dreadful moments and I wish you all a very happy happy and joyful thanksgiving, don’t forget please keep others in your prayers as you feast and enjoy your loved ones, someone will need your thoughts and prayers on tomorrow!

Happy thanksgiving Eve!!

Everyday we wake up it’s a new time, moment, and opportunity for new chances, and decisions.

Tuesday morning, I woke up with the anticipation of having a really great day… but it actually started out with things I didn’t want it to. It was rainy, did you know weather effects your mood?!, there were new adjustments, I was off to getting three children ready, and I felt emotional.

Do you ever feel emotional at times, there ar many different reasons that could …Well that was me that day, I didn’t feel my best emotionally.. what I did realize was I had a chance to pray, and I had the opportunity to make my day better by the choices I made throughout the rest of that day. We have the power to do that… we have the power to stop , restart, and just breathe, we have the power for a better right now, and we have the power to make choices that will help us towards a better tomorrow.

Everyday is new, we can do what was done three weeks ago, two days ago or decide to do something different. No, we don’t know the exact outcome but preparing and hoping for the best makes it worth it.

Prayer also helps, after I prayed all of those emotions felt dissolved, I realized several hours later that I felt better, I realized I hadn’t even thought about what occurred that morning, and things got better from there. Everyday that we live on this earth is a day for better, we are granted with the opportunity to live at our best, operate at our best, and do all the best things that we desire to do! What you proclaim is what will be, you can do all things!

Dear God,

I pray for the one reading this right now, I ask in your matchless name that you will give them strength now to conquer all that is possible, every day that we live in this earth is a day to accomplish, it’s a day to move forward, a day for opportunity to do something different, and it’s a day to be the awesome person that they are. Father give encouragement, give empowerment, and send forth wisdom where it’s needed most. Lord in you we can do all things, we can conquer fear and move mountains! Father I ask when they experience something that’s not in your will that they will be put back in place, as moms, sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts and uncles I pray, and Lord I bless you now for them receiving the words of this blog, I pray that these words will strengthen and uplift to go forward I tell you thank you now In Jesus Name Amen!